Using the Tools by Krystal Zellmer

At the end of May we got to come together as a company for the first time in two years for our corporate conference. I don’t know if anyone reading can relate to this, and I truly didn’t realize how much I desired that connection until after we were there in that experience. To be back surrounded by Compassionate Samurai was soul filling for me. At the end of our corporate conference, we had an event that we call Welcome Home. Welcome Home is an event for graduates to come together, fellowship and connect. It is designed for families and I had the honor of bringing my family to be a part of it. Friday night I had a profound experience that reminded me of the power of the Klemmer tools in action.

It was after dinner Friday night, and about half of the attendees were still in the dining hall. A few of the kids were running, and in the blink of an eye I heard my five year old fall. I spun around and most of the adults' faces were a little shocked with their eyebrows a bit raised, but no one said a word or jumped out of their chairs. As Henry looked to me for a reaction, I took a deep breath and reminded him to do the same. I pulled him in close to me and asked if I could take a look at his chin which he was holding. When he looked up, I instantly knew in my gut that this particular injury would be best handled with some stitches. Kimberly came and confirmed my feeling. She also enrolled him on how exciting it is to be a part of the “club” when you get a scar on your chin.

Why am I telling you this story? The power of context and ground and center. From the moment Henry fell, the context of this group of compassionate samurai was ground and center. Not a single person created a scene, nor panicked. Henry simply followed suit. We got to the emergency room, and again during the stitches there were no tears and no drama. Please hear me, this is not because I am some parenting guru. In fact, I was a bit surprised and in awe that there were no tears during the entire escapade. This all occurred because the tools work. Ground and center is a conflict resolution tool. He used it and he didn’t even know what to call it.

As I reflected on the events that transpired I was inspired to write this blog. I was reminded of the personal power that comes with choosing to be grounded and centered. Ground and center can work to defuse an argument in your family, or your workplace. It can be used when two or more people adamantly disagree. It can be used to calm your nerves when you are feeling out of control. It can root you in confidence in the business decisions you are about to make. This tool can provide you with the confidence you desire for the next big challenge you are taking on. It is at your fingertips. The storms will continue to come and you can set the context in your life to switch the trajectory of the outcome regardless of the circumstances. It is all at your fingertips.

When was the last time you allowed yourself to practice? Have you reminded yourself of the power and potential you have when you choose to come from a grounded place? As you look back at a situation that created high intensity and high pressure, think about times where you could have shifted the context of your experience of the situation. If you chose to operate from ground and center more often what would be different?

If you are someone with children or teenagers in your life and you want more of these types of tools for them, in a format they can experience and absorb, Playful Mastery and Youth Leadership Camp are happening live this July. Please contact kari@klemmer.com for more details.